Tips on How to Have a Threesome from Ladies Who Had Them

Women Reveal How to Have a Threesome

We like to think that we are more sexually liberated than we used to be; however, when it comes to some things, people are still hesitant about opening up. Except, not these ladies! We have asked some women who have had a threesome what they wish they knew before their first threesome.

1. Communication is key.
“Although I like spur of the moment sex, I also want to have some kind of idea what to expect. I learned how important it is to communicate with the other people involved — not only about practicing safe sex, but what was and wasn’t okay to do with each person. While I don’t regret my first threesome, I wish I spoken up and said what I was and wasn’t comfortable with.” – Cait, 32

2. Don’t try three-way sex in an effort to impress your man.
“Don’t put yourself through an uncomfortable experience just because your man wants you to. If you’re in a relationship and your partner is pressuring you to do something that you aren’t feeling, then perhaps you need to reconsider your relationship.” – Michelle, 25

3. Don’t prowl the internet for your 3rd.
“If you’re looking to have that first-time threesome experience, don’t be one of those couples who advertise, ‘couple first threesome!’ on a dating site. Please oh please, don’t treat the singles on those sites like cattle that are there for your sexual fantasies.” – Piper, 29

4. Be interesting and not intimidating.
“If you really want to find your third, don’t go to the bar and put on a show. What I mean is don’t act like your relationship is more than it is. You both have to show that you have genuine love for each other, you enjoy each other’s company, and you are not shy. When you talk to someone that you think may be interested in joining you, they’ll be more likely to agree to your threesome because they’ll want to be part of that fun and loving experience.” – Cynthia, 36

5. Find a third that is interested in the same things that you are.
“When I had my first threesome, I met a couple who had a completely open relationship. I met him first and then ended up dating his wife. This was the wife’s first threesome so it was an experience for all of us. We all had a connection with each other and I liked them as a couple and as an individual. When you’re a third, you are going to want to make sure that the couple you’re joining is not going to become overly jealous over the fact that you’re joining their bedroom fun.” – Cara, 24