What Do You Do When the Romance Dies?

In many relationships, the romantic feelings and spontaneous actions die out after a period of time. This is a natural occurrence for most people and it doesn’t mean that you no longer care for the other person, it is just that the spark has temporarily gone out.

Millions of couples across the world have this problem every year.

In many cases, it ends in divorce or the couple splitting up however it doesn’t have to. We have some tips that you can use to get the spark back into your relationship and keep the romance alive even after it has gone.

Focus on the small things

Sometimes we can get so distracted that we forget about the small things in a relationship that keep us happy.

In some relationships, it can be the small things that you did for your partner have stopped. Bringing them a cup of tea or coffee in bed, saying “I love you” every once in a while, or even just surprising them by cooking a nice meal or picking up their favourite thing from the store.

These aren’t big actions however they can have a massive impact on your relationship.

Find a new shared interest

Rather than looking to the past and all the things you use to do together, why not look to the future?

Find a shared interest and start doing it together. It can even be something that neither of you have done before. You can love or hate it together and if you find a new activity or past time to focus your minds on then the lack of romance will be forgotten and it may even make you realise how much you enjoy spending time with each other.

A new hobby can kick a relationship back into life.

Keep a realistic view on love

Finally, you need to have a realistic view on what love is and how it evolves.

As we get older the romantic feelings we feel for someone often starts to disappear and this can be a natural thing. It doesn’t mean that you don’t love them anymore or that you don’t care, it just means that you are content with each other and don’t have those romantic urges as frequently as before.

Don’t despair because a lot of the time this is a natural occurrence and it doesn’t mean that there are no feelings left – it just means that you don’t need to express them as much as you once did.

Keeping a relationship alive

You can often have too high expectations of being in a relationship.

The first 30 days of a new relationship is going to look different than the next 30 years. This is pretty much the same for everyone however a lot of couples have a hard time coping with this.

If you realise that things change over time and that while the romantic side of your relationship may start to fall away, the fact that you love each other doesn’t. With just a few small actions like we have mentioned here you can put the spark back into your relationship and stop it from falling apart altogether.